9.9.22 Tabs
How learning to lose is such an important skill for a leader. Happy bday to Tinder who just turned 10 years old, somehow. What are the different ways we can listen?
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📰 A short and sweet article about how we can learn a very important leadership skill through playing: how to lose. How we are learning humility, grace, modeling constructive behaviors and other skills when we play (games, sports etc.), and lose.
🎧 Even without kids myself, I found this podcast on how to talk to your kids about radicalization utterly fascinating; basically the most important thing a parent can do when they sense their kid might be absorbing bad messaging from tv/video games/friends (or even proactively before they sense anything), is to be curious. Don’t forbid X or Y thing, but try to ask questions of them, keep the door open. I really liked listening to this.
📰 I posted a TikTok about this already, about how Tinder turned 10 this month, but a friend sent me this article from The Cut’s Allison P. Davis about the whirlwind that has been her full decade on Tinder. It is parts utterly depressing and parts invigorating. Don’t quite know what to make of it.
re: my tiktok on dating apps btw, so many people left really interesting comments about their own experience and I want to share some:
Anyway— this topic is endlessly fascinating for me so please comment/reply if you have more to say on this!
📰 How does the quality of the U.S. health system compare to other countries? A really interesting, if not utterly depressing, study of how America’s health care lags behind comparably wealthy and sized countries. It’s not great (and ties into the article from last week about our average life span going down….)
🎧 Which reminds me about this podcast called Natal, which tells different stories from black Americans as they navigate their sometimes scary parenthood journeys. I would honestly listen to the whole podcast but I linked the first episode there.
👩💻 A friend sent me this TikTok where a former Microsoft Product Director shares one of his favorite interview questions: Teach me something new in one minute. This gave me a lot to think about so I wanted to pass it on: I feel like this question, especially when you see his criteria (completeness, complexity, clarity) is biased towards the super fast thinkers, as opposed to the people who need to internalize it for a bit longer, BUT I still think it’s a cool question worth considering.
👩💻 This graphic from LinkedIn on Levels of Listening (original post here if you want to see but tbh it’s a very LinkedIn influencer-y post so the graphic is the main takeaway LOL). I really really like this and honestly I feel like my instinct is to the live in the “listening to evaluate” zone so I need to move towards empathize and “as one.” Where do you think you primarily reside in your listening habits?
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With the dating app thing, I think it really depends on the person. For some people I can see it not working and being a real nightmare, and for others (like myself) it can be an overall good thing. All of my close friends are in long term relationships with people they met on tinder (and so am I). I don’t have the kind of job/lifestyle where I can easily meet nee people, so using tinder was a great way for me to purposefully put effort into dating!
Thanks for sharing those comments from your Tik Tok on online dating. Extremely relatable and interesting to see. I hadn’t seen Davis’ article but I love her as a writer so thank you for posting! I will read.